While she seeks to formally dissolve her marriage to Sebastian Bear-McClard, Emily Ratajkowski is going through one of the “most terrible events of [her] entire life.”
In an extensive new interview conducted in the midst of her divorce and custody dispute with the Uncut Gems producer, the model, actor, author, and podcast presenter stated as much to the Los Angeles Times. Three women accused Bear-McClard of alleged sexual misconduct last week; some of the alleged incidents allegedly took place while he was married to the host of High Low With EmRata.
Because of their 2-year-old son Sly, Ratajkowski told the site that she wouldn’t go into detail about the “horrifying” year she’s had, which included breaking up with Bear-McClard last summer before filing for divorce in September.
“I’m scared,” Ratajkowski said. “I’m learning that outspoken women don’t often get their children.”
In terms of the present custody arrangement, she stated that Sly lives with her full-time but visits his father occasionally.
Ratajkowski stated she is aware of the social media discussion around her breakup, in which people are asking who in their right mind would cheat on the lady who danced topless into the public view in the “Blurred Lines” video a decade ago. Nevertheless, she avoided going into specifics.
“The world is pretty brutal to women, no matter what they look like,” the 31-year-old said.
The anecdote about Ratajkowski and her husband attending a WME industry party with fresh eyes was retold in the piece from an essay she had previously written for her book My Body. She wasn’t having fun at the gathering, as the tale went, and she felt ignored by Bear-McClard as he continued asking for her picture. Bear-McClard and she were having a disagreement when his agent approached them and remarked that she was so well-known that she was “like Pamela Anderson before the hep C.”
She hated the whole experience, and how Bear-McClard seemed at home in the room, which just years before had also included men “kissing Harvey Weinstein’s ring and encouraging their young female clients to take meetings with him in hotel rooms. I hated that my husband was at all connected to these men.”
It said the revelations of her ex’s alleged misconduct only confirmed her worst suspicions. She told the outlet, “And maybe that’s why right now I’m not really interested in men’s POVs. Because they were lies. And I don’t mean infidelity. This is a f***ed up world. Like, Hollywood is f***ed up. And it’s dark.” She said in 2020, she fired her acting agent, commercial rep and manager because she “didn’t trust them” and thought they “hate women.”
As Ratajkowski works to officially sever ties with her ex and starts anew, “It feels beautiful, like I’ve awoken,” she said. “It’s kind of like the archetype of Pygmalion, the classic story of the mannequin or statue coming alive. There’s something that’s been created in a man’s perfect image, and then it takes on its own life.”
She’s developing a calmer outlook on life.
“I don’t even feel my heart rate go up in the way that I used to,” she said. “The anxiety doesn’t hit me so much, because I’m very clear on how I see the world and what the truth is.” While she said she’s “really just not thinking about guys. I’m working, I’m a single mom. I’ve been so busy that it’s easy not to think about,” she did address some of the men she’s been linked to in recent months, which have included Eric André, Pete Davidson and — you may have heard — Harry Styles.
Talking about her dates with the Saturday Night Live alum, whose dating history fascinates the public, she said, “Even my friends were like, ‘What was that like?’ I actually don’t understand it. People are so perplexed by the idea that a man might just be respectful to women and treat them like people and thus be easy to go out on dates with.”
She declined to comment on the specific allegations regarding Styles, who she was photographed having sex with on a Tokyo street last month, including those regarding her friendship with his ex-girlfriend Olivia Wilde and any potential romantic entanglements between the three of them.
“There’s a million insane, inaccurate things about my relationships [that are said],” Ratajkowski told the outlet in a followup comment from Japan. However, she added, “I’m definitely still not thinking about guys. Although, yeah. You know, sometimes things just happen.”
Three women accused Bear-McClard of sexual misconduct on March 29. He is accused of contacting a 17-year-old on Instagram and convincing her to participate in a nude scene for the Safdie Brothers’ movie Good Time without telling her what the action entailed. Another woman alleged that Bear-McClard, who was married to Ratajkowski at the time, began “grooming” her on Instagram when she was 18 and engaged in unprotected sex with her without her permission. Attorney for Bear-McClard declined to respond to the accusations. The Safdies were “made aware of Sebastian McClard’s behaviour in July 2022. They took immediate action and terminated him,” a spokesman for the Safdies said.